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 Yesterday the that denying recognition and benefits to same-sex couples is unconstitutional. Gay and lesbian couples who are legally married (they are able to do so in 12 states and the District of Columbia) will be able to take advantage of such benefits as tax breaks and pension rights that are available to other married couples. Further, legally married same-sex couples will have the . Reflecting on the Supreme Court鈥檚 ruling, I am reminded of the research study my colleagues and I launched in May 2004, when the went into effect, making Massachusetts the first state to legalize same-sex marriage.

My colleagues and I interviewed 50 same-sex couples in Massachusetts and their children. Some of the couples had chosen to get married and some had not. Whether or not a given couple chose to marry, they talked about the importance of the legitimacy and the recognition the change in the law offered them. Their sense was that when legal marriage is available to same-sex couples, the ramifications stretch far beyond the couples themselves. Perceptions of families, co-workers, neighbors, and strangers shift toward greater acceptance.

Rod* (married, in a 27-year relationship) put it this way:
It has been an amazing experience. I do feel in some fundamental way that it has changed me in the sense of legitimizing me鈥� I always used to say, I鈥檓 married, but it wasn鈥檛 real. And now it鈥檚 real, you know? It鈥檚 real, real. You know? I mean it鈥檚 like legal real. In that way I think it fundamentally changes the way I approach the world. You know? It鈥檚 like, 鈥淎re you married?鈥� 鈥淵eah!鈥� And it鈥檚 your problem to figure out who it is that I鈥檓 married to, or whether this is a straight marriage or a gay marriage or whatever. And I鈥檓 extraordinarily grateful for the opportunity to do that.

Regardless of whether they believed that legalization changed their personal relationships, and whether or not they chose to marry, all respondents clearly recognized the tangible and intangible benefits that come with official state approval. These included access to family health insurance, legitimacy for second parents, and next-of-kin status in medical contexts. The issue of medical access, privileges and decision-making was specifically mentioned by a number of families. Linda and Sally, a couple who had been together for 24 years, described the importance of a marriage license for their family鈥檚 legal protection:

Linda: Well, I honestly feel like, not to be unromantic but, the marriage part was really just the medical benefits and that sort of the financial 补苍诲鈥�
Sally: Get the piece of paper.
Linda: Right and, just the things that help the family in a time of crisis.

Ada, a married woman in a five-year relationship described the transformation from a cautious to a secure position with respect to her family and their public entitlements:
If we didn鈥檛 have a legal marriage, I would feel like I was constantly on the defensive about what should I do, how I should do it 补苍诲鈥� And instead I鈥檓 able to take a much more assertive stance and be able to advocate for the family in a way I didn鈥檛 feel like I could have before, because I didn鈥檛 have anything behind me to do it.

Other respondents shared similar sentiments, identifying a sense of 鈥渟afety鈥� or protection that comes as both a formal and informal benefit of legalized marriage:

Jaidyn (married, in a ten-year relationship), said,
To be legally validated and whether or not someone likes it, we鈥檙e married. They can鈥檛 say 鈥榃ell, that鈥檚 not real鈥�. I think there was a feeling of safety that would come along with the legal marriage. 鈥�We were very safe in our relationship with one another, in our lives, but [now we have] safety from people who might want to deny us our civil rights.

Despite the real benefits and protections that came to same-sex couples in legalized unions in Massachusetts, the federal (DOMA) was repeatedly mentioned by study participants as a source of unequal financial burdens on couples who chose to take advantage of the availability of family benefits that were state but not federally recognized.

Leo, a married man in a 27-year relationship, described the dilemma confronting many couples in the study as they contemplated taking advantage of the new opportunity to put a same-sex partner on the other partner鈥檚 family health insurance plan.
Even though I could bring him under my health insurance, I would have to pay a tax on the contribution the state of Massachusetts--because I was a state employee. So [the contribution that] the state of Massachusetts makes towards his health insurance, I鈥檇 have to pay a tax on that. That鈥檚 a considerable amount, because the state pays seventy-five percent of the insurance. So 鈥� there are still some penalties that same-sex couples face that opposite sex couples don鈥檛.

Yesterday the U.S. Supreme Court has lifted the penalties and unequal burdens. We rejoice.

[*The quotations in this piece are from 鈥淲hat I did for Love, or Benefits or鈥�: Same-Sex Marriage in Massachusetts,鈥� by the Same-Sex Marriage Study Group, 妻友社区. Names of the study respondents have been changed. The paper can be downloaded for free through July 2013: http://www.wcwonline.org/pdf/paid/422.pdf . In addition to the WCW Working Paper, you can also download this publication from the study: .

Sumru Erkut, Ph.D. is an associate director and senior research scientist at the 妻友社区 at . Members of the exploratory study of same-sex marriag in 2004-2005 were: Erkut; Ineke Ceder; Georgia Hall; Amy Hoffman; Erinn Horrigan; Gloria Luong; Jean Murphy; Anne Noonan; Konjit Page; Michelle Porche; Diane Purvin; Catherine Senghas; Lisa Sankowski; Ellen Schechter; Joyce Shortt; Allison Tracy; Jasmine Waddell; Nancy Wechsler; and Jodie Wennemer. Additional expertise was provided by Jean Hardisty; Nicolene Hengen; Karen McCormack; Nancy Marshall; Jan Putnam; and Donna Tambascio.